I think it’s wonderful that you encourage your children to be active in the arts. Theater programs like the one I run are fabulous for providing children with not only interaction with peers who might not otherwise meet, but also giving practice in listening, analysis and other communication skills. It’s great to give children a diverse experience of the arts so they can not only learn a skill, but also hone a unique way of expressing themselves throughout life. That’s what I do, I help children have fun and develop their skills. So I hope you understand why I was upset and annoyed when you asked how many of my students went on to do commercials to become professional actors and you took up the majority of our conversation to tell me about your own experience. acting rather than your child’s needs. This is a huge red flag that many of us teachers have seen.

Children are not dolls. They are not toys. They are not avatars to give you a second chance at your own unfulfilled dreams or failures in life. They are little people with their own autonomy, who often desperately need their own childhood experience. I get it, you say you want the best for your kids, and I think you mean it. But what you did put me in a difficult situation. Over the years I have developed a rule of not accepting students with parents like you. We won’t be a good match because we disagree on what’s best for your children. I will not participate in the commodification of your child or the programming of unhealthy behaviors in him.

May I suggest enrolling your children in a painting program instead?