To my future daughter-in-law – Dena Johnson Martin Christian Blog
We’re only a week away from officially becoming family, and I’m so excited!
I remember the first time Blake introduced us. I was captivated by your natural beauty and your calm, gentle spirit. I knew you had something special, even before I had the opportunity to know you.
As I contemplate the next week and the past three years, there are a few things I want you to know.
I prayed for you since before you were born. When Blake was a child, I prayed for him as I bathed him at night. When we were little, we prayed together every day. As an elementary student, I prayed with him every morning before school. Throughout her life, I prayed for a marriage built on my Savior, the Rock and the Foundation of life.
With every prayer I prayed for my precious son, I prayed for a godly woman to steal his heart. I am so happy to see you as the answer to my prayers! And it is obvious that God has heard and answered these prayers! My heart rejoices to know that you have a foundation of faith, a life built on the Word of God. I couldn’t ask for more!
I’m so grateful you have a story of being a prayer warrior. At your graduation party, your former pastor’s wife told me how you always had faith. She told me how you prayed for the house where you grew up when you were just a little girl. I can’t even begin to tell you how happy my heart was!
Prayer has been an integral part of our lives. Blake saw God move as I raised her as a single mother, struggling to provide for my children. He saw God step in and do what only He can do. He knows the power of prayer – and I’m grateful to you too!
It takes time to mix two lives a. Sometimes the early years of marriage can be difficult as you begin the process of learning and growing together. Don’t be surprised if you have rough days at first.
The stresses of this life are many and you will quickly discover how the pressure of life can impact your relationship. Hang on! As you grow together, you will discover how to move in unison, to enjoy each other, to do something beautiful in this lifetime.
I know you’re both excited for what the future holds! There’s so much promise and also (I’m sure) a bit of trepidation too. Can I ask you to do a few things for me?
Commit to praying with and for Blake. I can’t even begin to stress the importance of praying with and for your spouse. God hears the prayers of a righteous woman praying earnestly for her husband! I know it first hand.
Several years ago, I had alarms set on my phone for different times of the day. When the third or fourth alarm went off that day, Blake asked me why I had so many alarms. When I explained that the alarms were to remind me to pray for him, you could see a visible change in his face. There was a feeling of peace and joy that just washed over her.
I know Blake’s faith has been shaken and he’s faced his share of doubts, but I see him coming out of it. I know that deep in his heart he appreciates the prayers of those who love him. There is nothing more loving for you than to pray for every area of his life: his faith, his career, his manhood, his wife, his family. Be the one in his life who falls on his knees in his name.
Do not neglect your own personal vocation. It’s really easy to get caught up in your marriage and trying to be a good wife. This is a good thing! But, do not neglect your own gifts!
You are an incredibly beautiful and talented young woman! I know you love being creative, picking up your paints and creating such beautiful works of art. You have a beautiful voice and incredible musical abilities.
Never get lost! God created you with your own unique gifts and callings. Your first responsibility is to God, to become the most beautiful version of yourself that you can. He created you for a purpose, and it will always be complementary to whatever He calls Blake to. Always remember that even though you are both one, God created you for your own unique purpose.
Surround Yourself With Other God-Seeking Couples. Throughout my life, there is one thing I can emphasize that has always led to spiritual growth: community. The times in my life when I was surrounded by like-minded women who were also looking for God were the times when I was closest to God.
You both know the importance of friendship and companionship, and you also know the importance of friends who love and accept you for who you are. I know you both have dear friends, but be sure to find religious married couples to help you through the seasons of life and marriage. Having other people who understand is essential to your health and happiness!
I’m so excited to welcome you to our family next week! Know that I am always there, always available, always in prayer for you both!